I have high calcium levels, brain mri showed spots in white matter, pain on right side abdomin. dr mentioned aphasia-can all these be realted? im 41

Not directly: Don't see how the abdominal issues would tie in. High calcium and brain lesions could have a unifying diagnosis. Aphasia means problems with speech, which could go along with brain lesions. Stay with the work up to get to the bottom of this.

Complex but: Maybe you possess hyperparathyroidism which can be confirmed by simple blood tests. The spots on the MRI may not be related, or could represent a co-morbidity, and the aphasia might be due to vasospasm or stroke-like issue, but cannot easily sort all of this out currently. See an endocrinologist and pin down your diagnosis.

Possible: Exact scenario may be hard. Need ct of chest, abdomen, & pelvis to rule out any cancer that could cause high calcium or sarcoidosis. If not done, need parathyroid and vitamin d levels. It may be that you take calcium or Tums that increased your calcium in blood which if high enough causes confusion and weakness. If so, brain findings may relate to a virus possibly herpes vs others.