My husband is mad at the baby because she will not play with him. what should i do?

Tough one...: I seriously doubt that's even close to the full story. Children are very good at picking up the mood and attitude of the people with them (it's called empathy), and if your husband is tense when he approaches the child, the child will tense up back at him. So whatever it is that's really bothering your husband is what you should address. The child will play with whoever is in a playful mood.

Patience: Provided you trust your husband not to hurt the baby if he is mad, give him more time alone with the baby. Make sure he knows not to take a baby's actions personally. Most babies go through phases when they prefer the mother and then phases when they prefer the father. The baby needs both its parents to thrive.

Patience: Your husband & other inlaws in her life need to understand that her attention is not their birthright. Babies are interactive beings with no internal "rule book" of who their supposed to like. Their basic drive is to be with those who provide the greatest comfort & consistancy. They commonly cry if separated from their chosen best buddy starting at 6 mo.Dad needs to be close by more & be patient.

Be Slow.Be Patient: The other answers in this section are all correct. I would only emphasize, that the harder dad tries to get the baby to interact, usually the more tense the situation becomes. Be slow and patient. Let the baby warm up to you. Do not push. With slow patient approach, this issue resolves itself.