How can i handle caring for my husband when i myself am starting to need advanced care?

Social service help: Contact either the city social services or the hospital where your husband was last seen and the social service dept. Can be of great assistance.

Go see your doctor: Each patient and family is different with different medical issues and different insurance. You should start by contacting your doctor and insurance and a social worker at your local hospital. If you have a chronic diseaase sometimes there are organizations out there with more information. Start the process.