My mom won't let me take medicine for my anxiety or depression. alternative treatments?

Make yr own decision: if you are 33 years old and that totally controlled by your mother's opinions, perhaps you can find a way to start being your own person. If you want to try medication for your anxiety and depression, this seems perfectly rational to me. You may also want to see a psychotherapist for talk therapy, both for the anxiety and depression as well as for assertiveness training and boundary setting.