What do you suggest if my mother is having heart surgery at the moment and i am anxious?

Depends on you: For transient situations like an upcoming surgery, non-medication interventions are best such as deep breathing, guided imagery and progressive muscle relaxation. In a pinch, over the counter meds like Benadryl (diphenhydramine) can ease anxiety in many people. But if the anxiety is overwhelming, see your PCP. Remember, your anxiety can effect how your Mom does during and post surgery.