I shouted so loudly to my husband infront of my 9 &8 yrs old kids wil it affec them how to make them forget?

Not to make : Them forget, but a good learning experience - that there is a solution to every differences , anger. Life is like a roller coaster. We learn to forgive and forget . Apologize to your husband when you have calmed down

Learning opportunity: Hopefully you and your husband both carried the discussion to some form of resolution that was productive.These spats can be a great opportunity for you to demonstrate anger/coping/ interchange of ideas and coming to a productive resolution. That would be good for the kids.If it is just a yelling contest, you need to do some work on your skillset. They won't forget but they need to learn something