What is the best way to focus when nervous about a friend's health?

List: There is a series of questions that will help to focus. 1who is this person to me? 2 what am i afraid of for the person and for my self? 3 is my fear grounded on facts? Next step is to answer the" what if it happens" with, "well what it does happen we will just have to deal with it. It is not the end of the world. " this is facing the fear which gives you power over it rather then it over you!