I asked them to not cut me, but now i have episiotomy stitches. i am upset. what do i say?

Talk with them: Episiotomies are done only when absolutely necessary. It was likely an emergency. They have 2 lives to consider - yours and the baby's.

Don't be upset!: The current trend in obstetrics (according to my colleagues) is not to do surgical episiotomies, as there is a great deal of evidence that healing is better if the posterior birth canal is allowed to tear naturally. However, this tearing often requires repair with sutures by the obstetrician. So, just because you have stitches doesn't mean you had an episiotomy. Ask your surgeon!