How much does intimacy matter in your life?

For me, little: I'm a natural loner and this suits me fine; i can do the things i enjoy without having to worry about how somebody else feels about it. For other people, happiness is impossible without an intimate relationship. A person has some ability to choose their beliefs and behavior and thus affect their feelings. Anybody who tells you how you "should" feel when you're hurting no one is wasting your time.