What can be done to control my temper in the heat of a moment?

Anger management?: There are programs, but - also individual therapy can help. On your own, you and perhaps someone you're close to can set up meaningful reinforcers (positive & negative) to provide motivation for doing it. Whether the issue deserves attention or not, give yourself time. Always. Even if you don't need it. Before you respond, take a private moment to calm down & organize yourself. You deserve it!

Recognize triggers: . . . And try to avoid them as much as possible. This would also include environmental precipitants as well. Try your best to understand the reason for any engagement or confrontation and be prepared to conceed. When calm, seek help in attempting to discover the reasons behind your confrontations (i.e., need fulfillment, control, recognition).

One small tip.: Ccount to ten before acting on the urge to impulsively harm someone physically or emotionally. Reduce anger by deep breathing. Breath in deeply & slowly through the nostrils. Hold air in lungs for a 5 count before slowly exhaling through an open mouth. Repeat until you cool your jets. Focus on your breathing not what is making you angry. Cognitive behavioral therapy is excellent.