Would you please cite some references of books etc on the subject of coping with chronic illness? i have lupus and it is hard to deal with.

Support group: I am sure there is a foundation somewhere near your related to lupus. You should consider joining a support group which will likely provide you more personal insights and reading recommendation. Chronic illness is often a major issue and you will need all the help you can get.

See below: Check out the the lupus foundation of america chapter in your state as they can provide you with online as well as local support groups.

Books on Coping: There are many books on coping with chronic illness. I hope you have already found them! rather than simply coping, i also like to find books that give me perspective and insight. Dr. Remen's "kitchen table wisdom" is a classic, as is arthur frank's "at the will of the body." for couples, kivowitz and weisman's "in sickness as in health" is also packed with info and wisdom.