I am afraid to get test for hiv aids. i was wondering if there is a way to tell if you have it without being tested.

No: No, anything that would tell if you had HIV would qualify as a test.

Get tested, big guy!: To be brave, act brave. You've just recently become a grown man. You should be proud. You're at your mental, physical and sexual peak. This should be a time that you treasure -- without having this fear slowing you down. Just go do it. Bring a buddy if that'll help. Like a new skydiver, your fear will vanish as soon as you're out of the plane. Hope you're healthy, but HIV is now manageable.