How can i reduce vaginal wetness during intercourse? apparently this makes my man go soft. am i the problem?

Vaginal wetness lube: This is an interesting problem reported by a few of my patients for which there are few options. On the more radical side, I have heard of gynecologists performing cervical surgery to reduce the secretions. There are no widely available vaginal drying agents although a various agents have been used off label. In some instances vaginoplasty has been used to reduce the caliber & increase friction.

Man losing erection: It sounds like your partner is having difficulty maintaining his erection. There can be a variety of causes for this and he should have a medical evaluation.

I agree: And i wouldn't recommend trying to reduce the natural lubrication that is supposed to occur during foreplay and intercourse. If the wetness is more watery, you should be evaluated by a urogynecologist or urologist.

It should not: That is normal and is a sign that you are aroused and normal for you; possibly he should take more time with heavy petting and stimulating you in areas that you would like and that he would like. Normally lubrication is a good thing.