Is it better to go cold turkey on nicotine or use gum and patches? id rather do the former but i dont know if thats recommend

No right answer: What ever works is the best way to go. cold turkey may be right for some but is hard. If there is an oral fixation as part of your habit the substitutes may be of benefit.

Everyone is: different but setting target date to stop and then stopping completely on that day can be effective. Learning some self-hypnosis can support this plan of action (www.asch.net). Chewing gum or eating mints is useful, especially at high risk times like coffee breaks. Peace and good health.