I have a hospital telling me my moms catheter has to be taken out. she has a uti and history of vre and broken skin . do i have the right to refuse?

You do have th right: You and your mother have to give permission before doctors can do anything medically. But you have to be rational and try to understand the nature of the problem and the basis for making any changes in her care such as changing the bladder(Foley) catheter. Catheter is a common source of bladder infections- which may be hard to control, unless you remove the catheter. Find out the risk/benefits .