My parents and i have bad relationship they say i can tell them anything and when i do i get yelled at & or punished and i don't trust them any help ?

Communication: Wow. thanks for being so honest in your post! My hope is by telling your family your concerns about your relationship that it will allow further communication. Family therapy can be helpful as you have a therapist there to help you explain yourself and to help your parents listen. As teens get older it is hard for parents to see them less a children. Thanks for sharing! I wish you the best!

Relationships: Even if they don't change, You can! Learning great communications skills, such as I teach in Resilient Relationships, can rapidly stop arguing and get a family on track. One of the skills is to stop and ask yourself first "Is what I am about to say or do going to help or hurt?" A short pause before you say something can produce dramatic positive change in relationships.

Speak to a counselor: at school and get their help to try to arrange some family therapy. If they are not willing to participate, work with a school counselor to try to learn ways to approach your parents and talk about tough issues without getting into fights with them.

Mixed messages: Sounds like you're hearing mixed messages. On one hand they want you to be honest & the other you are getting in trouble. Don't confuse honesty with rules though. Just b/c you're honest doesn't mean you can break rules. If you choose to break rules, great that you're honest, but expect a consequence. Lying will only make the punishment worse. Speaking to them calmly may also help them do the same.

Family dynamics: 17 year old young lady with concern about family dynamics. Trust and respect your parents. Stay away from drinking, smoking, drugs, fighting, and illegal activity. Focus on doing well in school and making friends that stay out of trouble. Your parents cannot be mad at you if you do this. Focus on keeping your emotions, words, and actions under control. If your parents can't do it, learn anyway.