Gums irritated day 2-3 after wisdom teeth extraction. is this normal?

Typically yes but...: Talk to your dentist or oral surgeon. Some extractions are more difficult and therefore more likely to have extended time of soreness. You need to talk to them to rule out post-operative problems.

Yes: It takes some time for everthing to feel better. Each case is different. What you describe seems quite normal. Each day should feel better than the previous day. If you have any problems or questions, you should call the dentist who extracted your tooth.

Yes: It is not unusual to have some facial swelling for the first 2-3 days after surgery. The gum tissue overlying and adjacent to the extraction sites may also sometimes have some irritation during that time as well. Keep the extraction sites clean by following the postoperative instructions provided by your surgeon.