My bf of 2+yrs is 46 has ocd. he says he wants to get married but is too scared. he worries about details like who's silverware to keep is this ocd?

OCD symptoms: Ocd symptoms can interfere with daily life. You don't mention whether he is already getting treatment for this. But if not, please know this condition can be helped with medications and psychotherapy. You can encourage him to see his physician, and if already seeing a psychiatrist/psychotherapist, to tell them what he's experiencing so therapy can include it or needed meds can be adjusted.