Why havn't i been able to get in the mood and is so painful? hi its been nearly 2 months now since i gave birth to my beautiful baby boy and havn't been having any urges for sexual intercourse due to pain but in the first month i felt perfectly fine and b

Hi. : Hi. Bringing a new baby into the world is one of the greatest joys you can experience - but it is also one of the most stressful things that can happen in your life. A new mother's body takes many months to become rejuvinated. The exhaustion can be crippling - especially when you add in middle of the night feedings and getting up for diaper changes. When people are depleted or exhausted, sex is usually not high on the list of desires. Also, family dynamics change when a baby is added to the equation, it is a time that is fertile for couples to squabble. You could be depressed or this could be simply due to the rigors you are dealing with. Regarding, the vaginal pain- i would ask your ob/gyn doctor about this. Try to be loving to yourself right now - it can be a trying time. Take care.