How do you know when your not a virgin? the guy never went in all the way because it hurt to me and i stopped him every time. i never really opened my legs well at least not wide enough for him to get in all the way.

Hello, : Hello, what an interesting question. And oddly enough, one that is not easy to answer. Traditionally, loss of virginity was defined by the penetration of the vagina by the penis. However, loss of virginity can also include genital to genital contact without vaginal penetration by the penis. This would make sense if you consider the sexual interactions of lesbians. You describe that he did not "get in all the way". Even the traditional definition of loss of virginity refers to penetration (it doesn't have a specifier like deep penetration). It is obvious from your question, that whether or not you are a virgin is important to you. I strongly recommend that if virginity is important to you that you not engage in activities that are likely to lead to this type of sexual intimacy. For instance fondling breasts or genital fondling is interpreted by some guys to mean that you are engaging in foreplay that may lead to intercourse. It sounds from your description that your interaction was consensual. I really recommend that if you are not ready for intercourse (and frankly it doesn’t sound like you are) that you set firm limits with your partner (and yourself). What you described doesn't sound like a pleasant experience. Why don't you allow yourself to mature and wait until you are physically, mentally and spiritually ready for this step.