The first day of my lmp was 11/10/12 i took a blood and urine hcg test and they came out neg. but with extreme pregnancy symptoms did i test to early?

Yes: Assuming your cycles are regular/predictable, if your period started 11/10, then you aren't pregnant & it's too early to do pregnancy test. Early as 10-14 days after conception & certainly by 7-10 days after a missed period are time frames when you can check if you're pregnant by a home pregnancy test. If you have 28 day cycles, try timing sex on 11/22, 11/24 & 11/26; days 12, 14 & 16 of cycle.