I am an adult with adhd/add. what would be the best solution for me? it has effected all stages of my life and i hate going to the doctor:(

Try to like yourself: We all have deficits and we all have depths. As we age we learn to accept our deficits. The hardest thing is to fill our lives from our depths and learn to appreciate what we can do. Obsession with weakness wastes time. Focus on abilities make them even more valuable. Do not let what others expect of you cloud your vision. Show them the best of what you expect of yourself.

That's too bad: More medication options for adhd exist than when you were young. You may be missing out on meds that make your life much easier. If your daily function is impaired, you may qualify for ssi. Life coaches/ therapists can help you with organizational & social skills. Neuropsychogical evaluation defines your strengths & weaknesses & helps you make a game plan. Learn your rights at chadd.Org.

ADHD treatment: Studies of adhd have shown that medication is very effective for symptoms. It is important for the physician to know if there are any other problems such as depression or anxiety. If a person has just adhd, it is often a simple task to find a medication with few side effects. Once a person is stable on medication, often there is just a medication check in appointment every 3 to 4 months.

Not a personal flaw: Having adhd is very likely genetically inherited. You did not ask for it. Did not do anything to get it. It happened to you and the best thing to do is to take care of it. Psychiatrists know how to help you. Stop fighting your own adhd and properly treat it. No one with any knowledge about adhd will laugh at you. As you can see, it is already making you suffer. The treatment works.

Non medical answers: Couldn't agree more about the value of medical intervention. Adult ADHD treatment has no one silver bullet, so in addition to medication options, strongly consider : 1) frequent exercise, 2) good diet limiting simple sugars, dyes, 3) accountability partnerships (friend/fam/life coach) to set goals, prioritize, sequence and COMPLETE tasks among others. See http://www.additudemag for other ideas