I have bad anxiety it makes me sick sometimes i don't want to ruin my marriage is there a medicine i can take to help with that?

Long-term therapy is: needed to manage chronic anxiety. There are many anti-anxiety medications that help when used as an adjunct to Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy &/or other therapies. Seek referral to a psychiatrist & a psychologist. If you take these steps to become healthy, your husband may be willing to attend couples' counseling with you. Good for you for recognizing the problem ! Act now, don't worry.