My 8 month old daughter wakes every hour or two at the most wanting held and her bum patted. this is every night soon as i stop patting she wakes up?

Sleep hygiene: This sleeping routine is all she knows and needs to be helped to return to a healthier way of sleeping. If this is thought to be behavioral then you need to consider giving her the opportunity to soothe herself. Give her time alone while she is awake to try to settle down and fall asleep on her own. Dr Ferber wrote a very popular book about sleep hygiene.