Is it normal after 6 yrs of seperation from my husband, 3 kids and 18 yrs of marriage to still hope he'd come back he left me for another, am i insane?

Marriage counselor: I believe this question should be discussed with a counselor/psychologist in person to whom you can give further details regarding the circumstances. Good luck.

You're not insane: but in most cases, 6 years gone after he left for someone else says he didn't appreciate you then and still doesn't. Married 18 years w/3 children, it must have been very hard. Questions to consider w/a counselor: Why do I still want him? How did he treat me before he left? Am I letting him determine my self-worth? You deserve to have a life today. Therapy can help.

Normal is a Choice: The situation you describe must be terribly difficult. "Normal" is a relative word. Right now this is "your" normal. I think the real question you are asking is how do I feel better and get my life back on track. At some point you will have to choose whether to keep living your life waiting for something that might never happen. A good therapist or counselor can help you with this. Good Luck!

Not insane, hurting: When asked how much stress various events would cause in people's lives, divorce consistently shows up at the top of the list. An 18 year marriage was likely a central part of your self-definition, and I imagine that loss has been wrenching. Time does heal, and no one can say with certainty what's "normal." Some divorces are harder than others,. A therapist could be quite helpful. Take care.