Hi i am 20 and my boyfriend couldn't penetrate me since i felt pain. i didn't bleed but am i still considered virgin with my hymen broken or not?

Definitions vary: The idea of virginity varies with the context and culture.Does it apply to sexual activity with others and not self ? Does it apply to same or opposite gender contact ? There is no 100% way to know the answer to this issue in the context of your question. Some define it by the intact hymen but that ignores anal and oral sex. I view any sexual contact as changing that status.