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Please provide some do's and don'ts on improving sexual desire.

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Dr. Michael Hulse answered

Specializes in Gynecology

Ignore: A busy, stressful lifestyle can decrease your sex drive. Take some time to take care of yourself.

Answered 3/9/2014

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Dr. Zahid Niazi answered

Specializes in Cosmetic Surgery

Ignore: Cosmetic surgery may improve your desirability but never undergo a procedure for someone else's sake.

Answered 12/29/2014

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Dr. Jan Lei Iwata answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Ignore: Don't be exhausted when you're in a romantic mood.

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Ignore: Do talk to your doc; don't be hard on yourself; do focus on sensual touch. Not orgasm, as a goal!

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Ignore: Listen to your partner with sincerity and empathy. Do not try to solve the problem.

Answered 5/31/2014

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Ignore: In men, losing weight can increase the sex drive b/c extra fat creates female hormones that weaken u.

Answered 6/6/2014

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Do:: Do: laugh about your differences Don't: argue about them.

Answered 6/6/2014

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Dr. Barbara Lavi answered

Specializes in Clinical Psychology

Ignore: Reduced sexual desire causes strain on relationships marriage therapy can help U rekindle desire.

Answered 6/10/2014

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Ignore: Many factors affect libido: stress, fatigue, relationships; but for many testosterone tx can help.

Answered 5/20/2015

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Dr. Marsha Davis answered

Specializes in Internal Medicine

Getting: Getting enough rest and feeling good about yourself helps you have desire for your special other.

Answered 6/18/2014

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Dr. Barbara Lavi answered

Specializes in Clinical Psychology

Improving: Exercise increases circulation to your sexual organs and improves mood.

Answered 7/31/2014

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Dr. Barbara Lavi answered

Specializes in Clinical Psychology

Improve: Improve Sex Drive 101: learn Relaxation techniques. If stress is <ing your sex drive, it will help.

Answered 6/23/2014

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Dr. Barbara Lavi answered

Specializes in Clinical Psychology

Improving: Improving Sex Drive101: Experiment Boredom may lead to a decrease in sexual desire. Try new things.

Answered 6/23/2014

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Dr. Dale Kristle answered

Specializes in Gynecology

Ignore: Don't be fooled. There is NO medication that has been FDA approved to increase sex drive.

Answered 7/19/2014

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Dr. Harold Peltan answered

Specializes in Ophthalmology

Work: Work out. Dress up. When you feel more attractive, your desire for your partner will increase.

Answered 3/14/2019

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Dr. Elvia Greathouse answered

Specializes in Obstetrics and Gynecology

Ignore: Open communication with partner. Understand that the primary sexual organ in women is the brain.

Answered 8/27/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Make: Make having a satisfying sexual relationship a bigger priority in your life.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Do: Do get a medical checkup, to assure you do not have an underlying medical cause for decreased libido.

Answered 11/19/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

When: When you feel even the slightest pulse of desire, follow through with it.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Explore: Explore and experiment until you know exactly what turns you on.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Decide: Decide to become adventurous & try things you haven't tried before to see if you find them enjoyable.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Improve: Improve your self-esteem and outlook on life.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Take: Take responsibility for making things better so that you will feel more loving toward your spouse.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Treat: Treat yourselves to a hotel for the night, even if it is one in your own town.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Show: Show your spouse more affection and attention.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Prepare: Prepare the room with soft lighting and soothing music then start with a back massage.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Spoil: Spoil yourself when you're feeling down and take some time to relax.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. John Munshower answered

Specializes in Family Medicine

Respect: Respect your partners privacy, don't kiss and tell!

Answered 11/19/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

“Men: “Men always want to be a woman's first love - women like to be a man's last romance.” Oscar Wilde.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Foreplay: Foreplay is the cornerstone of great sex.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Role: Role playing can add a layer of fantasy.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Try: Try lighting the room with candles & the scent of lavender to set the tone.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Avoid: Avoid sexual turnoffs – brush your teeth before foreplay.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Simple: Simple Aromatherapy to enhance sexual desire- Rose petals on the bed.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Avoid: Avoid Sexual turnoffs- like odors to include the smell of smoke.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Select: Select highly aromatic blossoms for a bouquet to stimulate the senses.

Answered 11/21/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Aromatherapy: Aromatherapy to enhance sexuality – Patchouli, Jasmine or Sandalwood essential oils.

Answered 11/22/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire – Try surprising your partner once in a while.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

If: If you are planning to have a romantic bath with your partner – scrub the tub well in advance !

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Sensual: Sensual Bath – Gently loofah your partner.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Have: Have extra large, soft fluffy towels awaiting you after a sensual bath.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Bath: Bath Mitts can be part of a sensual bath or shower experience.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Pre-warm: Pre-warm towels in the clothes dryer to top off your sensual bath.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Buying: Buying a gift for your partner? A heated towel rack for the perfect ending to a sensual shower.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Setting: Setting the mood for a sensual bath- tea candles are less likely to fall over than tapers.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Luxurious,: Luxurious, warm, soft HIS & HERS bathrobes to don as you step out of a sensual bath.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Add: Add drops of Sandalwood or Jasmine essential oil to your bath to make it SENSUAL.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Enjoy: Enjoy a chilled bottle of sparkling grape juice with your sensual bath.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Lavender: Lavender – the aroma of love.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Increasing: Increasing Sexual Desire – Privacy can enhance Intimacy.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - Gentle can be so intimate.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire – learn to be flexible in your relationship.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire – Select beautiful music to set the tone.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - Consider preparing for an evening of intimacy with a day at the SPA.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - Plan special activities. "Variety is the spice of life.".

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - A little playtime is good too!

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Your Sex Life - Play is Pleasurable.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - Find more time to just be together.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - A bedroom that is too hot can dampen arousal.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire- Tell him WHY he is Special.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire: APPRECIATE EACH OTHER & YOUR RELATIONSHIP.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Romantic: Romantic massage – warm the oil before applying.

Answered 11/23/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Improving: Improving Sexual Desire - Have fruit or chocolate on the bedside table. Food can spice up romance.

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Erectile: Erectile Dysfunction: Citrulline in Watermelon rind may relax blood vessels.

Answered 11/24/2014

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Dr. Heidi Fowler answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Consider: Consider fresh mint leaves dipped in dark chocolate for a snack when amorous.

Answered 12/11/2015

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Dr. Irving Harper answered

Specializes in Internal Medicine

Take: Take your spouse/ significant other out on a date. Dress up, just the two of you, write a love note.

Answered 1/21/2015

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Dr. Brian Nguyen answered

Specializes in Obstetrics and Gynecology

Improve: Improve your sex life by improving blood flow to your heart, which improves flow everywhere "else".

Answered 1/22/2015

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Dr. Thomas Namey answered

Specializes in Rheumatology

Don't: Don't nit pick.A small caress means much. Giving praise even more. All will improve partner's ardor!

Answered 5/24/2015

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Ignore: Make your partner feel sexy by often telling them how desirable they are—not just during sex!

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Ignore: If something turns you on, admit it to yourself, and those you feel comfortable with. No fear!

Answered 6/29/2015

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Dr. Manan Shah answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Ignore: Create a no electronic zone in the bedroom, leave those screens outside the bedroom!

Answered 9/10/2015

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Dr. Bryan Treacy answered

Specializes in Gynecology

Ignore: Don't drink to excess. Do communicate with your partner what you want. Check your hormone levels.

Answered 10/14/2015

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Don’t: Don’t use supplements that promise weight loss, or improved physical or sexual performance.

Answered 5/15/2016

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Ignore: Create a time when you will not feel rushed or be interrupted. Watch a romantic movie together.

Answered 1/16/2019

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Dr. Thomas Namey answered

Specializes in Rheumatology

Love: Love your partner. Talk to your partner. Complement your partner. Make sure they reciprocate.

Answered 6/4/2017

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