Worried for bf. for 1, 5 years ache in groin area, otherwise fine.says its nothing, don't want to talk to doc. if it was malignant would we know by now?

Hernia: You may want to consider couples counseling. Or get to therapy yourself. Staying in a relationship with a man who whines but does not fix a problem may mean a life of misery. It very well could be that your bf has the very common condition of having a hernia. Inguinal hernias are very common and easily repaired.

Some men : Are reluctant to get the medical checkups they need. Your boyfriend may have a simple hernia that can be surgically repaired, or worse. It sounds like you've heard him complain on the one hand, but refuse to take the next step (see a doctor) on the other. If you dislike being in this situation, you can let him know how you feel. But it's ultimately his body, and his choice to allow an exam or not.