Just got an abnormal and hpv neg., when 3 weeks ago it was ab. with mild displaysia. and i'm told to come back in 3 months? he's just going to leave it

Go back to doctor: The 3 month appointment is entirely appropriate. You need to communicate with this doctor more effectively and ask the questions you may have at the time of the next appointment. Your understanding of the condition and your doctor's assessment are an essentially component to your management. They are doing the right thing but not talking to you enough.