Is it normal for sex to hurt me as much as it does? not just penetration, but throughout the whole time i am having intercourse it's hurts badly. never starts to feel good. even any foreplay/fingering hurts me. why am i not able to enjoy sex?

A Common Issue: bad: experiences in the past (especially ones not consciously remembered & difficulty distinguishing issues past vs. present) in which you also felt bad, hurt, confused, not in control or well treated; all making similar experiences painful, including in potentially better situations which may be loving, supportive & possibly new life generating (with all the associated responsibilities, life-changes).