I am use to masturbating daily by hand but when have intercourse with women with condom on i cant ejaculate or reach orgasm in the vagina ?

Overstimulation with: hand technique will decrease your sensitivity threshold from normal vaginal sexual activity. The older you get, the more likely this will happen. Work on sexual techniques with your partner to ensure both sides are getting maximal pleasure from this activity. Be open about what is bothering you and ask your partner what she thinks will help you get there. Some condoms just don't work well.