My husband and i played around (a lot). now my clitoris hurts really bad, and feels swollen, like a huge bump. super painful. is this normal? did i break it?

Yes, no: Glad you're having a good time! Often times, for both men & women, our bits are extremely sensitive after sex, often painfully so such that we can't tolerate additional attention/contact/pressure. More specifically, I'm referring to male glans & female clitoris. So take a breather, snuggle & let time do its thing. If it's that uncomfortable, cold pack + OTC pain relief. If that's not enuf, see doc