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Been with bf for 4 years having sex for 3. i've never had an orgasm with him. it doesn't feel good/bad just nothing. could it be selfesteem or other?

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Dr. Jeffrey Satinover answered

Specializes in Psychiatry

Maybe, but: There are many reasons why someone might be non-orgasmic, either situationally or in general. While it's possible that self-esteem plays a role for you, i woldn't conclude that in advance. It woud be good for you to speak to a trusted therapist or counselor.

Answered 2/26/2013

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