Im concerned yes my boyfriend of 14 years has had a hernia in his groin area for almost 8 to 9 years and its just getting bigger, it has pushed his man hood all the way over to the side and now looks to only have one testicle instead of 2, hes afraid to

It : It is very common to have hernias on both sides. It sounds like he will need to have this repaired surgically. As long as it is not causing him pain or causing him symptoms of GI obstruction such as nausea, vomiting and severe abdominal pain, he will not need to have the surgery done as an emergency. It is unfortunate that he did not have a good experience with his previous surgery. I think he should check around and find a surgeon with whom he feels comfortable with. You might ask his personal physician or your friends for a name. Confidence is everything for him. He needs to express his fears and concerns. The hernia surgery can then be done as in an outpatient setting, which is usually calmer, on a day that fits his schedule better. Best wishes.

Harder to fix: The bigger they are, the harder they are to repair. It will never improve without repair, and more than likely continue to enlarge, I have seen them the size if a football. Additionally, if he waits until the symptoms become more severe, he may need emergency operation, which is riskier that planned operation.

See a surgeon: It is time to see a surgeon and have this fixed to prevent further complications.