Want baby. we have infrequent genital herpes outbreaks. what should we do?

GET TREATED: Recurrent outbreaks of herpes can dramatically reduced if you take supressive therapy(valtrex, famvir) getting pregnant would not be a problem, but type of delivery needs to be discussed. If no outbreaks are present when you go into labor you probably can deliver vaginally. If a lesion is present in most causes the baby will need to be delivered by c section.

Preventive care...: (medication such as valacyclovir) and/or a planned c-section will decrease risk to the baby.

Go ahead: If a mother delivers vaginally during her first genital outbreak, there is ~30% risk the baby could get it and have a terrible illness. If a recurrent outbreak, this drops to ~4% but suppression of outbreaks (meds) or c-section delivery before the membranes are open 4 hours can cancel the risk. Rarely, some women shed herpes without an outbreak and could pass it , baby sick around 2 wks.