After time apart it hurts my girlfriend to have sex. plenty arousal, im avg size & we've tried ky. there was a little blood and she's sore for days.

Duration & Intensity: Sex can hurt healthy women, especially if it is sporadic and the woman is younger, or relatively small. The KY is a good choice, but also look into the duration of intercourse and the intensity of intercourse. Reducing either of these may help, then increase as she feel comfortable. Good luck and stay monogamous, you sound like a great couple!