My husband puts me down everyday. he makes me feel frustrated, cuz i know its not true. also, we haven't had sex for 8 yrs. hes 64, and im 45?

Time for consultatn: Couples counseling would be a good way to break through the present emotional barrier.He sounds like an emotional abuser, which may be from his own fear of continued intimacy.If he won't go initially, go yourself. A good therapist can help you develop coping techniques that will put you in a better place. Over time you can understand how you really feel and what you need to do.