Extremely dry itchy fingers and palm, with little red bumps that kill and clear fluid draining. what condition is it and how can i help it?

Dyshidrosis: This is dyshidrotic dermatitis, which was called "housewife's eczema" back in the old male chauvinist pig days. Common triggers are hand washing, cleaning chemicals, and stress. You need a prescription-strength cortisone cream, which you can get from your doctor or a dermatologist, and you need to protect your hands with gloves and otherwise avoid whatever is triggering it, to the extent possible.