So im wondering how to take my virginity with my fingers without it hurting?

Virginity is a concept where you have never had partner sex. It is not the presence of a hymen, which some women never developed or have lost it to some non-sexual incident. The tissue is sensitive and will hurt however you mess with it. You could apply lidocaine cream (sold OTC in some areas as anal pain cream) and after a while it may numb the area.

Why would you want to do that? Let life take its own direction. Good Luck