I have tried the pill and nuvaring, both have given me extreme anxiety and intrusive thoughts within the first few days i had used them. any advice?

Try non hormonal iud: If someone has severe psychologic or other side effects with hormonal birth control, it might be a good idea to try another form of birth control with no or very low amount of hormones like an IUD. There is the copper IUD with no hormones and then many options for progesterone IUD that should not be absorbed into the system like the pill and nuvaring