Partner & i both have genital herpes, can we still have sex if one of us has an outbreak? not cause of exposure; more like, will it make it worse?

See below : As long as the relationship is monogamous, both partners have the same type of herpes infection(s) (known as a seroconcordant couple), and both partners are free of other sexually transmitted infections, it's not necessary to use barrier methods like condoms or dental dams. Friction can aggravate herpes sores and slow healing, so you may want to avoid having sex when one of you has an outbreak.