What are ways to control my 7 year old son's explosive temper and his aggression towards brothers?

Modify behavior: Hard to explain in a paragraph as this takes time and effort on your part with some guidance: appreciate good behavior and try and ignore bad behavior. I will refer you to few books one by russel barkley phd. Your defiant child; eight ways to deal. Another, sos help for parents: parent guide by lynn clark. Good luck.

See below: Keeping your cool & calmly working through a frustrating situation lets you show — and teach — appropriate ways to handle anger and frustration. Teaching by example is your most powerful tool. Speak calmly, clearly, and firmly — not with anger, blame, harsh criticisms, threats, or putdowns. Never reason when your son is enraged. If emotionally, everyone is caught up in the storm-cool off & wait.