Would it be safer to have a reverse tubal or ivf? which would be better or more effective?

Depends: Ivf has a good success rate but is expensive and requires following strict protocols for each cycle with strong drugs. Tubal reversal in competent hands has a good success rate and is a one-time surgery (now minimally-invasive) that provides repeated chances for pregnancy without any further treatment. There are some drawbacks and risks with each.

IVF/ Tubal reversal: It depends on several factors. A tubal reversal allows you to get pregnant on your own and as often as you choose afterwards. Still, it is a surgical procedure that has related risks, including an increase in ectopic (tubal) pregnancies afterwards. Ivf is more successful with each attempt but is more expensive, requires diaily injectiions, has increased risks for multiples, and other concerns.