How do i tell my mom i am depressed because of her?

Very Carefully: Try and limit your conversation with your mother to "i" statements. That is, say how you feel without adding the word you and refering to your mom. It is hard to do. If you say you, your mom may become defensive and the conversation end up to be non-productive. You may say: "i feel unappreciated, " "i feel lonely, " "i feel sad, " "i feel unwanted, " your mom won't be able to disagree w/your feelings.

Is that so crucial?: Better yet, work on resolving the depression. It's possible, but unlikely that one's depression is due mainly to some other person. But if you believe it is, begin to express yourself -start by writing your thoughts. As you develop these ideas, talk with trusted others with good sense, & be sure to include a professional therapist. At some point, you'll know what if anything you should say to "mom".