how to help gf with feeling guilty about taking her virginity?

Question

I touched my vagina once, i heared that you can lose virginity by finguring, but i didn't have bleeding or any pain or feeling, have i lost it?

Answer 1

Morality: It sounds like you think it is wrong for your gf to feel badly after losing her virginity. Many cultures and religions place a high value on virginity. My suggestion is that you respect how she feels and consider your own actions.

Answer 2

Unrealistic goals: Perhaps part of your problem is that you set unrealistic goals for yourself and then feel disappointed in yourself (and guilty) when you can't meet your self-imposed deadlines. Alternatively, if procrastination is a problem, then breaking down tasks into more bite-size (and do-able) pieces might help a lot. Remember: forgive yourself again and again and again. Admittedly, it's hard to do!

Answer 3

Realistic goals: Set realistic goals with reasonable time frames. For the things that cannot get done in the 1st time frame, make a new goal in a new time frame. Go to your final goal like going up a step ladder. Put your guilt to work making a plan to get things done over several time periods. If you are very stressed about your situation or if the suggestion above doesn't work, see a therapist.

Answer 4

Depends: Dust bunnies have never attacked anyone. If its minor clutter don't sweat it. If your house looks like an audition for "hoarders" contact a physician--this can indicate a possible disorder which can be treated. Good luck!

Answer 5

It isn't wrong: It might be helpful to consider whether you are violating anyone's rights with your messy house. If not, there is no reason to feel guilty. Your house is messy because you've been doing other things. It's a choice and it's ok--it doesn't mean anything to have a messy house. If you'd prefer to have a clean house you'll need to adjust your schedule. It's up to you.

Answer 6

Certainly: Feeling guilty is a close cousin to serious anxiety. Things occur when a person has guilt associated anxiety. Our parasympathetic nervous system can go on a binge affecting heart beat, G.I. Activity, sleep, appetite, energy levels and things like our mental clarity and decision making capabilities. Guilt can become depression and it's very clear that depression has health consequences.

Answer 7

Guilt feelings: Absolutely! guilt feelings can not only cause illness, they are often caused by an illness called depression. Guilt feelings result in a great deal of suffering and you would be wise to consult with a psychotherapist. If you are diagnosed with depression, medication may also help in alleviating your suffering.

Answer 8

Perhaps: I believe you are speaking about obsessive-compulsive disorder which is often part of an eating disorder where guilt about eating leads to serious weight loss; known as anorexia involving avoidance of food. I would strongly suggest being evaluated by a psychiatrist.

Answer 9

Decide what you want: Guilt can be thought of as appropriate or inappropriate. If you've done something that you believe to be wrong (e.g., violated someone's rights) you feel guilty. If you've over-spent on shopping, you might feel regret because you have let yourself down by neglecting long-term goals. In order to stop feeling this regret you must lower your long-term goals or stop over-spending.

Answer 10

See...: As with other addictions, guilt is one of the reinforcers--not reducers!--of any compulsive or addictive behavior see http://www.Indiana.Edu/~engs/hints/shop.Html professor ruth engs at indiana university has compiled a page of tips and resources. You'll see on the page that she has stopped answering individual queries because she was being overwhelmed--so, you are not alone.

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