How can i deal with conflict and violence in my relationship?

Domestic violence: If there is threat of personal harm, i would get out of the house. You need some backup and a place to go, though. The national resource center on domestic violence ( http://www.Nrcdv.Org/ ) has information that can help. If you're talking only of conflict (but not violence as above) in your relationship, there is more time. Couple's counseling with an experienced therapist may help.