My five year old daughter has a bowel movement every 3 or 4 days and doesn't urinate when first awakes in morning belly hurts sometimes .. normal?

No: A kid should stool every day. This is relatively common ;aggravated by the kids poor bowel habits.They often chose not to go when nature calls, not to go unless at home, and generally have discomfort during the process. Discuss the pattern with your doc to see how to get back into a better pattern.The constipation can interfere with bladder emptying and lead to persistent bedwetting, etc.

NOT NORMAL: There: Should be one formed/soft bm/d. Better if one does twice. Your daughter has constipation. Fecal matter in rectum cause dysfunctional voiding- that she has, which can give rise to recurrent uti. Give 6-8 big glasses/bottle of water/day, more fiber- fruits, vegetables, salad, etc. Miralax (polyethylene glycol) (otc) 1-2 capful in big glass of gatorade/water/juice 1-2/d. Bowel training: sit on toilet 1-2/d until have bm.