Question 1

what are good ways to better accept the discomfort of a spanking?

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For whom: Part of the reason spanking is no longer recommended--and in some places now banned--is that causes discomfort for both the person spanked the the spanker.  The best solution is to stop using spanking as a form of punishment and turn to other types of well-studied consequences such as times our and loss of privileges.  Make the punishment fit the crime, and be consistent.

Question 2

what is spank the monkey?

Accepted Answer

Euphemism: This is an alternative term for male masturbation.

Question 3

will i get in trouble if i tell a kid his dad will spank him when he gets home and he doesn't want to?

Accepted Answer

Wrong, many reasons: This needs big help, so we'll start from the beginning. Spanking is the least effective form of discipline. Your pediatrician can help with time-out techniques. Discipline should be consistent, and immediate. There should be effective discipline delivered now. Transferring the duty to dad means you have no authority. I would work with your doc and break this down to get good effective discipline.

Question 4

is spanking okay?

Accepted Answer

Not recommended: The american academy of pediatrics does not recommend spanking your child.  This can lead to unnecessary force and harm to the child.  Instead use time outs and time ins.  Use a time out immediately after an inappropriate behavior.  The length should be equal to the child's age in years.  Use time in as positive reinforcement for good behavior.

Question 5

what cultures still spank kids?

Accepted Answer

Not sure: I couldn't find data on specific cultures that allow/encourage spanking.  Much more information on where it is banned.  Not yet banned in any state in the U.S., though strongly discouraged in most and can be defined as physical abuse in some situations.  France still endorses spanking, but increasing numbers of european countries have outright bans.

Question 6

has anyone studied the positives or negatives of spanking?

Accepted Answer

Yes: Not recommended, especially as a regular form of punishement.  It suggests physical aggression is okay and becomes increasingly hard to use as children grow older.  Non-physical consequences such as times out or loss of privileges have been shown both to be as or more effective and to produce much less strain on the  parent/child relationship.

Question 7

the effect of threat of a spanking without actually hitting?

Accepted Answer

Not optimal: A problem parents often create for themselves is making threats they don't really want to/intend to follow through on.  Research  shows that spanking and similar punishments suggest "might makes right."  threatening to spank may convey the same message.  Empty threats are especially bad because the child eventually will call your bluff.  Times out really do work if used consistently and well.

Question 8

how many people who weren't spanked as a child spank their children, and how many who were do?

Accepted Answer

Don't know: This is not a subject I am aware that is followed statistically. Most parents do repeat discipline methods that were used on them as children. Many also do not as they did not like those methods. . Corporal punishment does "work" on children up to age eight . After that it seems to increase negative behavior. Look for nonphysical ways to discipline as they are more effective in the long run.

Question 9

i believe that my harsh childhood spankings are the reason why i have a strong need for punishment now. is this rational?

Accepted Answer

Childhood punishment: Abusive behavior towards a child increases the risk of being abused or abusing others, including yourself, as an adult. Understanding the source of the pattern may help you to rid yourself of self-destructive patterns learned in childhood, so a mental health professional may help. Hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, or cognitive behavioral therapy are all options.

Question 10

is spanking the monkey bad for me?

Accepted Answer

Masturbation?: If that is what you are referring to it is not harmful and generally pleasurable.  Nothing will fall off.

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