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I'm 49 and have never been able to have orgasm in sex. Fsd?

11 doctors weighed in
Dr. Thomas Namey
Internal Medicine - Rheumatology
7 doctors agree

In brief: Unusual

Several causes come to mind: low testosterone in a woman, elevated prolactin levels, etc.
But can you give yourself an orgasm? This is important, then you should know what you like, in terms of stimulation, and relay that to your partner. Many women are hesitant to tell their partner what they enjoy!

In brief: Unusual

Several causes come to mind: low testosterone in a woman, elevated prolactin levels, etc.
But can you give yourself an orgasm? This is important, then you should know what you like, in terms of stimulation, and relay that to your partner. Many women are hesitant to tell their partner what they enjoy!
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Dr. Michael Sinclair
Family Medicine
1 doctor agrees

In brief: Primary Anorgasmia

Primary anorgasmia, (never had an orgasm) is pretty common among women.
It can be fixed most of the time. You need someone who is comfortable talking to you about things such as self stimulation, ususally a sex therapist. You also need a physical exam to make sure you are normal, ie no hooded clitoris, normal vagina, etc. Start by calling your family doctor.

In brief: Primary Anorgasmia

Primary anorgasmia, (never had an orgasm) is pretty common among women.
It can be fixed most of the time. You need someone who is comfortable talking to you about things such as self stimulation, ususally a sex therapist. You also need a physical exam to make sure you are normal, ie no hooded clitoris, normal vagina, etc. Start by calling your family doctor.
Dr. Michael Sinclair
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Dr. George Klauber
Pediatrics - Urology
1 doctor agrees

In brief: Very unfortunate

Some women go thru life without ever the experience of an orgasm.
Famous female sex educator betty dodson recommends using the hitachi magic wand. It is a gentle vibrator and has helped scores of women to achieve orgasm. Available at walmart, target, kmart etc.

In brief: Very unfortunate

Some women go thru life without ever the experience of an orgasm.
Famous female sex educator betty dodson recommends using the hitachi magic wand. It is a gentle vibrator and has helped scores of women to achieve orgasm. Available at walmart, target, kmart etc.
Dr. George Klauber
Dr. George Klauber
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Dr. Alvin Lin
Internal Medicine - Geriatrics
1 doctor agrees

In brief: If it bothers you

Fsd or female sexual disorder/dysfunction can only be diagnosed in women who are distressed by 1) lack of desire 2) inability to attain or maintain arousal 3) difficulty, delay or absence of orgasm and/or 4) pain associated w/sexual activity.
In other words, you might have all 4 but if you're bothered by it, then you don't have fsd.

In brief: If it bothers you

Fsd or female sexual disorder/dysfunction can only be diagnosed in women who are distressed by 1) lack of desire 2) inability to attain or maintain arousal 3) difficulty, delay or absence of orgasm and/or 4) pain associated w/sexual activity.
In other words, you might have all 4 but if you're bothered by it, then you don't have fsd.
Dr. Alvin Lin
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Dr. Alvin Lin
Sorry, poor editing: ". . . if you're NOT bothered by it . . ."
Dr. Michael Sinclair
Family Medicine

In brief: Primary Anorgasmia

Primary anorgasmia, (never had an orgasm) is pretty common among women.
It can be fixed most of the time. You need someone who is comfortable talking to you about things such as self stimulation, ususally a sex therapist. You also need a physical exam to make sure you are normal, ie no hooded clitoris, normal vagina, etc. Start by calling your family doctor.

In brief: Primary Anorgasmia

Primary anorgasmia, (never had an orgasm) is pretty common among women.
It can be fixed most of the time. You need someone who is comfortable talking to you about things such as self stimulation, ususally a sex therapist. You also need a physical exam to make sure you are normal, ie no hooded clitoris, normal vagina, etc. Start by calling your family doctor.
Dr. Michael Sinclair
Dr. Michael Sinclair
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Dr. Michael Sinclair
Family Medicine

In brief: Primary Anorgasmia

Primary anorgasmia, (never had an orgasm) is pretty common among women.
It can be fixed most of the time. You need someone who is comfortable talking to you about things such as self stimulation, ususally a sex therapist. You also need a physical exam to make sure you are normal, ie no hooded clitoris, normal vagina, etc. Start by calling your family doctor.

In brief: Primary Anorgasmia

Primary anorgasmia, (never had an orgasm) is pretty common among women.
It can be fixed most of the time. You need someone who is comfortable talking to you about things such as self stimulation, ususally a sex therapist. You also need a physical exam to make sure you are normal, ie no hooded clitoris, normal vagina, etc. Start by calling your family doctor.
Dr. Michael Sinclair
Dr. Michael Sinclair
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