Unsafety sex with the male hiv carrier is better than the female because if the male never spit out sperm his discharge is not that much like a femali?

HIV is hard to get: I think you are getting close with your thinking. You have to be exposed to the male's semen or blood to get hiv. That exposure does include pre-cum, and just like making babies, any semen in the vagina with active HIV infection could lead to infection. But, remember there are many other stds to worry about and that five of them can potentially be life threatening....